Dealing With Grief

 I suggest reading Overcoming Bitterness by Father George Morelli Ph.D:

However, in dealing with the trials and tribulations of life and the ensuing bitterness, I strongly suggest a leap beyond Ellis; we should spiritualize our encounter with such happenings and, if relevant, the people who caused the adverse events to happen. Solomon, the writer of the Book of Proverbs, understood this: “The way of remembering wrongs is unto death”. (Pv 12: 31). Spiritualizing these encounters requires patient re-framing of their meaning in our lives. “A longsuffering [patient] man is patient in endurance. But the fainthearted man is strongly without endurance.” (Pv 14: 30).

This accords with what I have read in other Orthodox Christian writings. It is the kind of thinking I am trying to emulate. 

Father Morelli has a website, Orthodox Healing, which describes its purpose as:

Orthodox Healing is committed to scientific evidence based medical and psychological understanding of mental and physical disease for the treatment of mental disorders. This ethical standard also applies to educational application, family and social functioning, pastoral care and other efforts toward behavior change. Clergy should be especially informed of methods to aid their pastoral ministry and make proper referrals. No healing can take place unless the spirit is healed and nourished. Regular reception of the Eucharist, the other Holy Mysteries (Sacraments), prayer (from the heart), maintaining a rule of prayer, spiritual reading and consulting with a spiritual father or mother as needed is essential to attain theosis-partaking-union with the Divine Nature.