Group Session Notes

 12/5/2025

Short, easy steps to dealing with deviant fantasies. Deviant = illegal.

Just pause and admit craving.

Keep from being enticed - on the verge of wrong place.

If you start imagining, then you've gone too far. 

Reinforce leaving high risk zone.

Use opposite imagery

all this to stop masturbation.

Consider negative consequences.

 I'm still thinking whoever put together this program think we cannot tell the difference between reality and fantasy. That there is a presumption that sex offenders have a pathological problem; rather than sorting out those who have a pathology that manifests itself sexually. We have to tell our story when we arrive in group. Two of the most recent arrivals committed their crimes while intoxicated on drugs. There is no evidence that they had any fantasies that led to their crimes. They were high, the underage girls were there, and actions resulted. I think underlying this program, underlying the government's approach, is a fear of sex itself; that those who would impose this regime are projecting their own fantasies and neuroses and fears onto others.

Why not masturbate? It always seems a way to work off the energy. It has to go back to the belief that we do not understand the difference between reality and fantasy. That it is presumed we will turn fantasy into reality. I had fantasies of death, and I did try to make that reality. That didn't work out any better than any other fantasy.

 I am more worried that people who dreamt up this program have not discovered that fantasies become farcical in the face of reality. That indicates a lack of experience in the real world and a definite lack of intelligence. 

Speaking of farce: what if I am the one who has better grasp on reality than those trying to impose their therapy upon me? In another time, I would think they believed the Penthouse Letters.

 12/12/25

Counter conditioning

Reinforcement

Path of least resistance

arousal pretty much comes this way

How to enforce is hard.

Step 1 - change the ending - target 50 -60% - be thinking what you're supposed to be thinking about.

Step 2 - then not engage in at all. Deviant or inappropriate, not expressly healthy.

  

 Inappropriate behavior is that which does not happen in a relationship. Which sounds to my ears like not within a marriage, which sounds quite Victorian, and silly.

How do we start a relationship? Not by parental arrangement. We do it by fantasy, a hope for love and romance, and that gets expressed in our culture by sex. It doesn't always work. Ask Paris how things worked out with Helen. Or Oedipus with Jocasta. David got Bathsheba, but at a cost. Juliet did not get much mileage with Romeo. Anna Karenina ended up by the railroad tracks, and Count Vronsky went off to war. Frankie shot Johnnie down with that long .44.

I still maintain if you think of deviant acts - which are illegal, and the lack of consent is key to their illegality - then you are a sick puppy that needs more help than this program. That is an evil that far exceeds the sin of fornication.

If humanity did not indulge in fantasies of finding transcendent ecstasy with another human being who might not be your significant other, there would be no need for religion, or psychiatry; the industries of film, advertising, perfume, fashion, and healthcare would collapse; and there would be no need for literature, music, theater, or film.

I go through with all this because it amuses me. Thankfully, I am paying out of pocket for this nonsense.

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